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結婚的原因

有些人認為婚姻是戀愛的墳墓..

記得有個病人告訴我...他和女友同居十年之後..終於結婚..但是婚後一年之後..鬧到離婚..又過一年之後..又開始同居..當我認識他時他們又同居了十五年..兩人的共識是絕不提結婚..即然如此那為何又有人要結婚呢?

我常想同居和結婚只差一張紙...而那張紙的價值其實是來自當事者...若是雙方都成熟有責任感..那就不用別人來規定需要對彼此負責...反之雙方沒責任感..那張紙又值多少?

今天上班時..問醫院的幾個男同事們...為何他們決定結婚...其中兩個是先上車後補票...非娶不可...兩位是若沒結婚的話...女朋友要離開他們...祇得乖乖結婚...有位好友的老公突然決定結婚...是因為可以減稅...但是女同事們結婚大都是因為愛或是說年少不懂事被愛沖昏頭...而我們是因為要畢業...我小姐想參加空軍...老公不要我走...所以求婚..

我常想難怪離婚率這麼高..

給父親的一封信

又過一年了....我們只能在記憶裡看到您....在內心裡和您說話....一直以為時間會沖淡一些心痛....可是每年到今天心卻是更痛是....

爸,

時間過了好快..又過一年了...在這一年中有很多的變化...我想您看了一定很高興,,,

自從兩年前的今天,,,我們無法再為了自私的不讓您走,,,,我們也不想再看到您受苦...姐弟同意簽了那份放棄急救的文件之後....大家只能在加護病房看著您一步一步的遠離了我們....爸....您是否知道那個決定是有多難嗎? 因為我們不想放了您的手....我們有多麼的不想讓您走....

現在我們只能在記憶裡看到您....在內心裡和您說話...一直以為時間會沖淡一些心痛...可是每年到今天....心還是依然的痛....您是否知道每當我晚上失眠時...我好希望能再一次打電話和您聊天....有時我還是寄伊妹兒到我為您設的信箱....我不敢讓弟知道....他一定又笑我無聊...但是我知道弟也和我一樣無聊....

爸請不用擔心....您的孫子和孫女都好想您....每次安兒走過福利社就說爺爺帶她去騎電動玩具....每當她經過游泳池....就想到爺爺帶她去游泳....每次妹兒去看您前....一定保留一些糖果帶到您那兒去和您分享....

自從您走了之後....我更希望有上帝....所以您在天上才不會寂寞....而且我們才有機會再看到您....不過在這之前您是否能來夢裡和我聊天呢?

我得去睡覺...期待我們夢裡再聊

final decision...

I had a chat with a few of my friends. I've finally reached a decision, which is to resign from my current position.. I feel much better. Life is good again..

好男人的悲哀

最近...一連串的事發生在同事P的身上...使我不得不相信世界並不公平...

同事P是一位好好先生...單親父親...一手挑起照顧女兒的責任...對前妻的無理要求...直到最近才開始拒絕...

同事P上個月去幫父親拿東西..結果被打到頭...腦殼裂一橫...腦振蕩...幾個星期之後發現臉部有點喪失感覺...現在連手都發麻...雖然他有保險...醫藥費還是相當可觀...

結果..這星期又發現有人偷用他的SSN NUMBER...盜領無職補助...結果政府卻從他的薪水扣...現在他得請假去SS辦公室去申請新的SSN NUMBER...

事情已經讓他很頭痛...結果她前妻到法庭抱怨同事P沒讓她拿她的衣物...法官看她一把眼淚一把鼻涕的...就讓他找朋友派警察去拿衣物...他倆離婚已經一年多...因為她有外遇被P發現...離婚是前妻要求的...離婚後她不肯工作...天天打電話來公司鬧...同事P還每個月給她一千兩百幫她度過難關...結果她去P家把電視, 電腦, 家具都搬光...這些都是P分居後用自己的錢買的...連警察都傻眼...臨走時還要拿P工作用的PDA...連警察都看不下...阻止前妻...難怪P發誓絕對不再結婚...

希望P的難關到此為止...也希望男老闆下星期不要再發神經找P的麻煩...

唉...可憐的P...

我實在想恢復從前的職位

我不喜歡作主管因為高處好孤獨

自從被升職之後..我開始發覺同事不再敢告訴我他們的問題...因為我不再和他們同條陣線上...

我自己本身也覺得矛盾...像一位好同事聽說去別家診所面談...當朋友的我希望他拿到新的工作...因為薪資較高...但是做主管的我...得裝做不知道...只能告訴另一位主管默默留意以防他突然辭職...

另一位同事A告訴我有關一位同事B覺得同事C對她提出特別要求...當朋友的我第一直覺是替她守密...當主管的我得擔心以後會不會告公司...兩方面都是好同事...我該相信誰???該不該告訴老闆呢???

一位同事最近不知道為何老是出問題...我提醒她一次...但是她不高興...我不喜歡衝突...可是我是她的主管...我必須告訴她...這個週末為此事心情已經跌到谷底...

最近, 老闆要那一位年輕女醫師走路...大家已經以為是我的主意...其實是她和我們男老闆合夥不成...他老兄惱羞成怒...想趕她走...但是我又不能明說...只能希望日久見人心...

我突然覺得辦事能力好差...搞的一身腥...我好討厭升職...

Plan for the retirement...

The question, "How to live well now and save for the big retirement ", has been on my mind lately..Frankly, I have no answer...

When we were young, retirement sounds so far away, but it becomes a popular topic once we hit the BIG "40"..Whenever there is a gathering, someone will always bring up that topic.

After listening to some of our friends, I suddently feel the pressure of needing to save more.. Most of our friends and family are telling us that we will need to save 4 to 6 million dollars for our golden years... Gosh... How can one save that amount of cash without winning a lottery?

Someone was telling us about various methods of investing.. After losing some money in the mutual fund during the internet bubbles, I've decided not to trust financial advisors nor any other making money schemes.. My husband and I have long decided that our best sure method is showing up to work everyday.

Since there is no way that I can figure out how to make more money, the other thought is how to save more..Now, this will need our entire family's support. My husband has cut down most of his expenses. He doesn't eat out at work, and he is cutting his own hair(by his choice).. The man really doesn't spend much money..Of course, I can cut down my eating out, which I have been trying this past few weeks, but I still need to go to some of my happy hours, because it is work related..I can not cut down on air-conditioning in the summer, cable, phone bills..etc. Otherwise, my honey and my child will have a fit...

Anyway, we've decided to record our expenses for this month, so we can see where our money goes, and we also need to know how much does it costs for us to survive, so we know how much we need to save for the retirement.

4 to 6 M??? .No way... No how... It must be a joke...I can only hope...

終於修好了

不知道為什麼前一鎮子打出來的文章都多一個space.

真高興終於修好了...否則都得乖乖的去修改...

A letter to my sweetie...

Starting over ..
Dear Sweetie,

For a while, I was keeping a diary for you, but I'd stopped, because your aunt was a little worried about your safety. Besides, I am not sure if you will ever understand my writing since it was in Mandarin..

For the past few years, I have been so busy with work and some family issues.. I am sorry that you have been put on the back burner.. Finally, things are more stable now.. So.. Here I am.. I am all yours again..Lets plan some quality time together.. And, yes.. We also need to plan our summer family trip..I am really looking forward to it..

Love,

Mommy

神奇的網路

網路還真奇妙 ....我住在一個不算大的城鎮 ...從沒注意是否有台灣人.... 一則工作.. 照顧小姐上課... 偶爾充當保姆... 我的時間並不多... 二則我的好友大部份是外國人 ...我的台灣朋友從來美至今只有一位... 直到最近 ...

我在 BBH有一陣子... 除了看些討論和幾位比較熟的媽媽的網站之外... 很少到別人那逛... 更少注意到作者住在那裡...

幾個星期前... 看到一位討論美國的事.... 她提到住在加州... 好像離我們不遠.... 不過想想這裡台灣人不多... 誰會搬到這裡? 但是好奇心作祟... 我到她的網站去逛... 才發現她和我住的不太遠... 兩人相約 ...見面...吃飯... 聊天 ...

哈哈...真奇 ... 現在, 她成為我第二個台灣朋友....挺妙的...

誰該留在家呢???

誰該留在家呢??? 最近在我們幾個朋友中成為一個挺熱門的話題 ...

誰該留在家呢??? 最近成為我和幾個朋友中的熱門話題...

我的朋友們個個都很能幹... 個個都是工作狂... 雖然老公們都有六位數的薪水....她們一周還是工作五 ,六天... 當孩子們還小時, 小孩子大部份都由老公或保姆幫忙照顧...隨著孩子漸漸長大 ....準備上幼稚園時... 大家開始考慮是否父母一方該留在家裡照顧小孩... 只是誰該放棄自己的前途呢???

大部份的老公認為賺錢養家是男人的責任... 當然老婆應該辭職... 或做 part-time 才可照顧小孩 ...大部份的老公都認為孩子的童年只有一個... 再多的錢也無法買回這段時光....何況, 留在家裡讓老婆養 ..有點傷到男性的自尊... 只是我們認為並不是所有的女性都是賢妻良母型... 有時候男人比女人更有耐心...若是如此, 是否老公該留在家呢?

從經濟上而言... 我的幾位朋友們薪水都比老公高... 有些職位也比老公穩定... 而且比老公更熱愛工作.... 若是她們辭職, 家庭所得會減少一大筆... 好像並不划算...

我和老公商量... 或許兩個都做 part-time...我們輪流上班... 所以, 小孩總是有人陪... 老公還在考慮之中 ...等這關過後... 還得和老闆商量 ...唉真是頭痛 ...